“If it’s messy, I’m doing it wrong.”
This belief can often show up in the middle of creating something new.
“If it’s messy, I’m doing it wrong.”
You’ve started, and you’re committed, and yet it feels untidy, unclear, harder than you expected.
When this belief is running, it can look like:
- pausing to perfect – tidying around the edges, instead of continuing in motion
- getting stuck in freeze mode
- comparing your process to others and looking for reassurance that you’re on the right track
- losing trust in yourself and outsourcing clarity
The experience that often follows:
Momentum slows. Confidence wavers. Discomfort is mistaken for failure rather than part of creative process. Ultimately it might even lead to giving up in the process.
Most meaningful things feel messy before they make sense. Many of us were taught early on to colour only within the lines, and that learning can stay with us, making messiness feel like a mistake rather than part of creating and expressing something meaningful.
In moments where the creative process feels messy try exploring these questions with curiosity:
Where are you waiting to feel more certain before continuing?
What have you learned about yourself in similar moments in the past?
Perspectives to consider:
- What if ‘messiness’ is a sign of engagement, not a mistake or something to judge?
- What becomes possible if understanding or structure is allowed to arrive later?
Where PSYCH-K® fits:
PSYCH-K® can help you rewire the beliefs that led to discomfort and uncertainty in the creative process. And instead, you can define how you want your relationship with creativity and self-expression to be.
If you already know PSYCH-K®, the prompts here might offer you an opportunity to transform any related limiting beliefs, as well as Transform the Perception of Stress. And, if you’re new to PSYCH-K® and would like help integrating more supportive subconscious programmes, you’ll find ways to explore or experience PSYCH-K® below.
For now, perhaps take a moment to notice if you hold limiting beliefs in this area, especially if your self-talk is – “If it’s messy, I’m doing it wrong.” Instead ask yourself, how would I like the process to be instead?
One decisive action:
Take the next imperfect step this month. Don’t refine it or explain it. Stay in motion and let understanding catch up. Notice what you learn about yourself by remaining engaged, even while things are unfinished. How would it be if you were able to just enjoy the process!
With much love,
Sharon x
